The Day I Stopped Calling Myself a Psychic

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Have you ever looked around your life and realised you’ve become someone easier to explain… but a little less like yourself?

A few years ago, I stopped calling myself a psychic. At the time, I thought I was evolving. Looking back, I realised I wasn’t asking, “Does this still feel like me?” I was asking, “Will this make more sense to other people?”

In this episode, I’m sharing the journey that led me back to Psychic Whispers—and the much bigger lesson it taught me about identity, authenticity, and the parts of ourselves we sometimes leave behind in order to fit in.

This isn’t really a story about branding.

It’s a conversation about recognising yourself again.

 If this episode resonates with you, I’d love it if you shared it with someone who’s learning to become more themselves.

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Hello and welcome to the Psychic Whispers Podcast. Hello and welcome back to Psychic Whispers. Just in case you're new here, hello, my name is Messina, and I'm a psychic medium, which I have been doing now for over 30 years professionally. Now, today's episode wasn't planned. I actually had another topic ready to record, but something shifted this week that completely changed my mind. I mean, nothing happened specifically, just that something kind of finally clicked. And that click made me realize I'd been carrying this thought around with me for quite a while. So today I thought we'd do something a little different. I don't have notes, just a cup of tea and a microphone and a bottle of water. And something that's been really just sitting on my heart. Today, I want to talk about something I think we all do at least one point or another in our life, whether we are aware of it or not. And I want to talk about the ways that we edit ourselves. First of all, we don't notice that it's happening. I don't think that we wake up one morning and decide, you know what, I'm going to stop being myself. It's a little more subtle than that, right? You know, just a conversation, maybe one comment, one piece of advice, one experience, one moment where you think maybe this part of me would just be easier if it were just a little smaller. And before long, you haven't become a different person. You've just become a slightly edited version of yourself. It's not that it's fake or dishonest, just maybe softer around the edges, easier to explain, maybe more palatable. And I wonder how many of us have done that. It's again not because we wanted to, but because we wanted to fit in the world a little more comfortably or with the right sort of people. You know, certain people get a certain version of us. We we definitely do that. And I wonder if we realize sometimes we've gone so far away from the person we really feel that we are. A few years ago, I found myself asking a question. I wondered whether the word psychic was actually serving me anymore. Now, that is a really strange place to be in when you have spent three decades being exactly that a psychic. But I had started thinking, you know, maybe people hear that word and immediately just stop listening. Maybe they dismiss me. Perhaps they imagine things that have nothing to do with me. You know, maybe there's another way that I can describe what I do, a way that might feel safer to other people, more modern and more understandable. So I made this really radical decision to rebrand and step away from psychic whispers and at the time just become messinasanders.com. And I started introducing myself a bit differently. I started using words like intuitive. I talked more about perspective, something I still love to talk about, but that I focused on that, you know, made that the mainframe. Personal growth and human behavior. The funny thing is, none of those things were untrue. I mean, they were all parts and parcels of what I've learned and evolved and grown in this work. They still matter deeply to me. I've learned so much, it's hard to ignore that knowledge. You know, this story isn't about me making a big mistake. It's a story about learning something. You know, recently I realized I wasn't trying to become someone else, per se. I was just trying to become easier to explain and honestly more palatable. And then somewhere in that process, I stopped asking myself one question. Does this still feel like me? Instead, I found myself asking, will this make more sense to other people? Is this going to be something that they can understand? And I thought weirdly, maybe it would land with people in a way that they might be open to what I do rather than instantly put that stereotype and that judgment straight on the table. But that question, does this feel like me? I have been thinking about that a lot. You know, how often do we ask ourselves, does this actually feel like me? Instead of, you know, will people like this? Is this acceptable? Is this acceptable? That's the main question that we tend to ask, right? Is this acceptable? Or maybe we say, will they understand? Or will this make me seem more successful in my ventures? Or will this make me, you know, fit in? I think so many of us, you know, secretly become translators. We start translating ourselves into a version that feels safer for the world to understand, even when we don't realize that we're doing it. But hear me out. Life isn't always about being understood. You know, life isn't always asking us to become easier to understand. You know, sometimes it's asking us to become easier to recognize, you know, to ourselves. And if you spend enough time translating yourself, eventually you stop speaking your own language. I've had a bit of an unexpected reminder recently. Now, some of you probably don't know this, but over the last few weeks only, I've started learning hand poke tattooing. And before anybody starts asking a million questions, no, I am not disappearing. You will not get rid of me that easily. Please don't worry. Psychic Whispers isn't going anywhere, and neither is my mediumship or readings. I couldn't possibly walk away from all of that, to be honest, and not after all these years. I love what I do. But this is where the story gets interesting because learning something completely new has reminded me of something very old. I mean, this tattoo thing, I've just spent a lot of time thinking about it and envisioning what it could possibly be and thinking about I tattoo ideas. And, you know, no one's asked me to. I don't even care whether they're selling, I'm not in, I'm not in the space of training where I'm selling them at this point. But I just couldn't stop. You know, I'm obsessive over it at the moment, if I'm really honest. And the things that I was really drawn to, they didn't surprise me. They didn't. But they were things like ravens and ancient symbols and folklore, the moon, you know, old woodcut illustrations, medieval drawings, things that looked as though they'd just fallen out of an old book discovered in the back of a monastery somewhere. And as I dwell over all these crazy great tattoo ideas, you know, I was smiling to myself. I was feeling so like light and elated. And I thought, there you are. You know, this isn't because I've discovered something new, but because I've remembered something very old within me. One thing that I have kind of said to myself recently, and kind of jokingly said to Nick, is I miss the witch in me. You know, I don't mean that in some weird Hollywood sense or even in a weird way. I'm talking about something much older than that. You know, the storyteller, the observer, the woman who notices all the symbols and finds meaning in old places, who lights candles because they've created a moment or they light up energy. The one who, you know, walks through the old church yards reading the gravestones. That's such a pastime for me. It has been since I was a very young child. You know, the woman who looks at the moon and feels something. The one who believes that hot life holds that mystery. Mystery deserves honoring. That has always been me. And you know, somewhere along the way, I just forgot that she was allowed to exist alongside the grounded practical woman that I'd become. The thing is, the truth is they're the same woman. It's all different parts of me. And that ignited the other thought. Remembering why I had reclaimed psychic whispers again of you, like what is it, just over a year, year and a half ago. You know, when I went back to Psychic Whispers and I rebranded or I backbranded, let's call it that, I had realized I was never embarrassed by the word psychic itself. I'm actually really fucking proud of it. I'm really proud that I spent all these years sitting with people at some of the most vulnerable moments of their lives. And I'm proud after all this time. I still don't pretend to know everything. I'm proud that I'm still fascinated by this work, that I'm still learning. You know, being psychic doesn't mean I have all the answers. It means that I have spent 30 years asking really great questions. And I've spent the last three decades learning so much to be proud of. But this isn't about me. Here's the thing: this episode really isn't about me. Because I think every single one of us has had places where we've really just edited ourselves just a little bit. You know, maybe you stopped wearing certain clothes or you've hidden your beliefs, or maybe you stopped painting, or stopped singing, or stopped dancing, stopped telling people what you really think. Maybe you've stopped the dream that you've carried around for years. Not because you stopped loving any of those things, but somewhere along the way, you decided they were too difficult to explain. And maybe the most important question that we can ask ourselves isn't will people understand this? But going back, does this still feel like me? I have got my fingers in a lot of pies at any one time. I'm a woman that likes to add skills to her belt. I love learning stuff. But recently, trying to put everything together, like where was all of this leading? You know, the podcasts, the readings, the tattooing, the photography, all my passion stuff, right? Everything. Well, it's all connected. They're all different ways of exploring stories between, you know, symbols and meaning and mystery and connection, visuals, you know, art, creative, creativity. Whether I'm sitting opposite someone in a reading, recording this podcast, or, you know, carefully placing ink into someone's skin one day, it's all the same thread. It's all asking, you know, what does it mean to be human? Because this is all expressions of my journey, my life. And in yours, you get to do that in so many different places too. And I just grew a little tired of trying to keep all those little parts of me separate. Like somehow they didn't go together. Of course they do. It all connects back into the same web. And the tattooing, even, I plan to take it forward with this work, doing this work, this psychic work, and apply it into that. It's all connected. It just got really exhausting keeping everything separated. And I just feel like so many of us are doing that a lot. And perhaps sometimes we just need to be all in one. You know, the day that I put psychicwispers.com, psychic dash whispers.com back as it was, and reclaimed it, smacked that psychic medium title back on my website and back on my socials. And I was like, that's that's what I am. The day that I just came back to feeling that and thinking, I don't want to be palatable to everybody. Like, no, I am never cared about that. Why now? Why? Gosh, there was so much relief. It was such a big coming home again. And getting to explore these parts of my creativity reminds me of those old things that I'm always been attracted to, those things that have brought meaning into my world, the things that have always, you know, made me who I am in this journey. Getting an outlet now to express that in a creative element is just like pure joy, just pure joy. But it feels like I'm finally coming back to move forward as me and injecting all of that back into the work that I do. I don't want to choose between being grounded and being mystical. We need both, right? We I want to explore more. I can't wait to get back to the symbols and the folklore and the energy and life and the unseen, the things we can explain and the stuff that we can't. I love all of that. I never abandoned it. It's just really nice to be pulling it back into the work. You know, I'm not here to convince anybody. That's never been my style. I think maybe that's what I've been trying to come back to all along. Just back to me. I just drifted a little too far away for my own liking. And it feels really good to be back in that space of alignment. And if you take one thing from today's episode, I hope it's this. Remember to ask yourself, does this still feel like me? The best thing that we can do in this life is be as authentic to ourselves as possible. Drifting far away from that is never an easy journey. And it's never our journey. Thank you so much for spending this time with me today. If this conversation resonated with you, then please share it with someone who's been trying a little too hard to fit into someone else's idea of who they should be. And you know, if you love the podcast, you can head over to psychicwisperspodcast.com and explore all the ways that you can connect with me even deeper. And if you want a reading, it's psychic-whispers.com. All the links are right there in the show notes. Now, until next time, trust your path, honor your truth, and always keep listening.