What Can Our Loved Ones in Spirit Actually See?

If our loved ones can visit us after they die… how much can they actually see? 

After more than 30 years as a medium, I’ve had countless readings where people in Spirit have acknowledged conversations they’ve heard, events they’ve witnessed and things that have happened in their loved ones’ lives since they died.

So this week I’m talking about what I believe they can see, why they seem to visit at certain times, whether talking to them draws them closer — and, yes, whether your dead relatives can see you during your personal moments. 

We’ll also venture down the fascinating rabbit hole of reincarnation and stories of people remembering what they could see before they were born.

Are our loved ones watching us all the time? I don’t believe so.

But can they still see us, hear us and check in?

I absolutely believe they can. 🤍

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Hello and welcome to the Psychic Whispers Podcast. Can those who've passed over see us? And I don't just mean, are our loved ones still around us? I mean, can they actually see what we're doing? Can they hear conversations that we're having? Do they know when we're talking about them? Do they know what's happened in our lives since they passed away? And because I know somebody out there is already thinking it, does that mean they're watching us all the time? Because that raises some questions, doesn't it? Let's be honest. There are certain moments in my life where I absolutely do not need an audience from the spirit world. Okay, let me be clear. But this is something I've been asked about for years. And after, well, about 30 years of communicating with people who've died, my answer is simply, yes. I do believe our loved ones can see us. I absolutely believe that they can hear us. I believe that they can be aware of things that happen in our lives after they've died. And I believe they can actually come and be with us in some way or form. But I don't believe they're usually standing around watching us 24 hours a day. And there's quite a big difference between those things. So I want to talk about it today. So why do I believe they can see us? First of all, this isn't something I believe because someone taught me that this is how the spirit world works. My belief has developed through doing the readings that I've done for all these years. Over and over again, I've had people in spirit acknowledge things that have happened since they passed away. And that feels important. You know, that's validating. You know, if somebody comes through and tells me something about when they were alive, obviously that's evidence of who they are. They might describe their personality or their relationship with the person I'm reading for, something about their death or something that they used to do. And all of that helps establish who I'm communicating with. But there's some real fascinating evidence when they start talking about things that they technically weren't here for. Things that have happened after they passed away. I've had people on the other side acknowledge conversations, changes in the family, things that have happened in somebody's home, events that have taken place since they were gone, people talking about them, objects being moved or kept, photographs, reading letters that they've written or cards, things that the person that I'm reading for hasn't told me. Very specific personal things. Sometimes it's something really ordinary. You know, and I think the ordinary stuff can sometimes be the best evidence, to be honest. You know, it's one thing for somebody to say, well, your nan knows you got married. But when somebody starts acknowledging some random little thing that happened in your kitchen last Tuesday, wow, you know, that's interesting. And I've had enough of those experiences over the years that I personally don't question whether there's some continued awareness after death. That for me has been evidence. Exactly how that awareness works, you know, I think there's a lot more questions and answers. And that's okay. One of the things that I hear all the time in my mediumship sessions is some variation of, I hear you talking to me, or I know you still talk to me. And I love this because people talk to their loved ones all the time. It's such a comforting thing to do, isn't it? And I think they find themselves, you know, talking to that person's photograph or talking to them in the car, or they'll be sitting at home and just say something out loud. You know, often if there's a grave site, you know, they'll go there and they'll talk to their loved ones and update them about what's been happening. Or reading old letters and cards, you know, I've lost a lot of cards that are kept that are meaningful. You know, or maybe they'll hold something that belonged to their person and tell them that they miss them. Or sometimes ask for help. Maybe they'll say, you know, mom, I really need you today. And sometimes they're not being loving at all. Sometimes they're absolutely furious with that person. That's okay, you know, because death doesn't make every relationship perfect suddenly, not at all. I think sometimes we're still reconciling with the indifferences. Maybe we're saying, you know, why did you leave me? Why didn't you tell me? I'm still angry with you, you know, or even, hey, dad, you know, if you're around, can you please come and help me with this? Whatever that is. I hear loved ones coming through and reading and acknowledging those conversations. And I've had clients say to me, nobody knows I do that. That's like an alone moment. Well, you know what? They do. They do. Those moments are incredibly powerful. Because I'm not going to tell someone, you know, you should talk to your loved ones because they'll hear you. They're telling me that they've heard them. And that's where my belief comes from. So are they actually in the room? Yes. I believe they can be. I've certainly experienced spirit as being present in a room. That's essentially part of mediumship for me. I mean, I've in my own way, I've seen them physically there in a spirit way. Hard to describe, but that's how it comes across. And I've had them describe things in a room, validating that they've been present in that space with their loved one, giving them all the clues to say, I was there, you know, that feeling of undeniable proof for the person that I'm reading for, because they're describing things that couldn't possibly be known unless you were in the room. When I read, you know, I feel someone come forward, I become aware of them, I feel their presence, and I start receiving information from them. For me, they're right there. And I have had readings where I am looking at someone, I am face to face, and their loved one is literally right there, right next to them. I believe they can come close, be in the room, visit. But, you know, like I said, I don't think that they're there 24 hours a day. I think in a way, they come and go. I mean, don't get me wrong, I have heard from quite a lot of loved ones on the other side that they've claimed to be particularly close to someone. You know, I'm I might hear I'm around you all the time. And I believe that. But I don't necessarily interpret that as I'm literally standing three feet behind you every second of the day. I believe that there are different ways of being connected. And there are times when spirit comes really close. Maybe something important is happening, maybe we're struggling or celebrating. We might just be thinking about them. Maybe we're talking directly to them and they just come to check in. They're almost called to that energy. And I just I feel there's kind of an energetic component to that. You know, if we're talking about consciousness existing without a physical body, then being very present with us requires some form of energy. I think our emotions create some of that connection. Again, thinking about someone draws them closer. Maybe they choose to come closer because they're drawn to us. I don't know exactly how every single part of why they're coming in close in those moments works. I think it's different for everyone. But I think those are general things that I notice that call spirit in, that bring them in that space of being close to us. Doesn't matter how long I've been doing this. I still don't have an instruction manual for the spirit world. I wish I did. This is exactly what happens. Don't we need that handbook for the recently deceased in our library for real? Honestly. Thank you, Beetlejuice. But I feel that what I've experienced, it feels much more like visiting than that constant sense of watching. And I do believe that, again, even when they're not in the room, even when they're not coming to visit close up and personal, that there are energetic ways for them to check in. And I don't know exactly how that distant watching part works, because I think there's things that we're only meant to understand when we're actually there. But I have had some evidence of that suggested too from spirit that they haven't needed to be in the room, but they have observed from a distance what's going on and what's happening within us. So are they drawn to certain moments? This is something that I find really fascinating. Because the moments that people in spirit seem to acknowledge are very often the moments when we would naturally think about them, like a wedding or the birth of a baby or moving house, a graduation, birthday, Christmas, family gathering, you know, or things going terribly wrong in life. You know, sometimes maybe them going wonderfully right. But that's moment where you think, oh, I really wish mom could see this. Or granddad would have loved this. Or I really needed you today. And I noticed those moments during a reading that get acknowledged. I got to see the wedding. You were beautiful in your dress. Or I got to be there seeing my grandson born. Or just I noticed you were having a rotten time. You know, I was there for that. I was trying to comfort you. I feel that energy of emotional connection. It kind of acts like a beacon. You know, we're projecting energy to them. We're emotionally connected. And maybe we're actually physically talking to them. Perhaps that's going on. But that energy just seems to draw them closer. I also get that proof at times that they might preempt to know what might be happening. I mean, I've had things come from spirit, you know, that were future talks, messages about things to come. I don't know how much they know in detail and how long in advance. I don't think everything is mapped out in life either. But for whatever the reason, I believe that they have that innate knowledge that we don't, and that there is a way for them to stay connected, both in present sense and future tense, and they show up in those times, whether we've preempted them or whether they just know that they're needed. I mean, it's not like I think that there's just this passive audience sitting around watching our lives like a Netflix show. It feels a little more interactive than that, you know, but they are guiding, they are watching and protecting. That love draws them in. And it's real. I've seen it so many times to know that it's true. I felt it in so many readings through the veins of the connection between two people. And I've watched over and over again very specific ways that they have given us that proof. I know that that's what's happening. Sometimes it's happening without us even realizing it. Right. But what about the intimate things? We need to deal with this because the minute you start to tell people that their past crossed over loved ones can see what's happening in their lives, there sometimes is that one raised eyebrow. That person that doesn't take comfort as much as they take anxiety in with that question. What do you mean? What are they watching? I get it. We want to know that there's some privacy in our lives. Fair enough. You know the short answer to this? I think we need to remember that the people that we love still have a relationship with us. There's like a respect and a feeling of personal space and appropriateness. And one of the things that never happens in readings is loved ones are not calling us out on stuff that they would not like to call us out on. They are interested in the moments that matter. The moment when you were heartbroken or something really changed in your life, or the the baby came home, you know, or when you were really emotional and you were asking them to help. Those are the things that they want to show up for. And those are the energies that call them into us, that call them to be near us and to help and guide and take part. So now the question is do you have to talk to them out loud? For some people, this is this is their MO. They're like, I speak to them all the time. I'm in my car, I'm at home, and I'm constantly like verbal dialogue out loud, talking to myself like a crazy person. That's what comforts me. Other people are like, are you kidding? And I'm never gonna do this. I'm like, why not? Go for it. But do you have to talk to them out loud? I don't think so. I think if you want to talk out loud and that's the way that you are comforted, please do. They love that. You know, that I don't know. I feel like it's kind of validating. But if it's just not your MO, that's fine. I really feel the emotional energy comes across the energetic, even telepathy, just thinking about them, the energetic vibes that we send out, just thinking about somebody can be a calling card. And if that's a calling card, I know they feel it. Intention matters. Thought, emotion, connection, all of that matters. It's all felt. I've had a lot of readings where someone's loved one has come through, appearing to acknowledge something that is more in their head. They've just been thinking about them, or there are these thoughts that come across. And they've acknowledged some of those. I know you've been thinking about me. Sometimes it's because there's something visual going on, like the person staring at their photograph. And, you know, I obviously, you know, that's a cue. But sometimes they just seem to know. I guess when you have nothing but pure energy to connect with, you start realizing the many ways that we actually communicate without words. And it doesn't matter. I think the more that we try to send our energy out to them, the more that they're receiving that. And that's all that matters. Love and connection, you know, it makes us miss and feel and grieve in ways that love can be amplified. You know, I remind people that grief is the deepest form of expressed love. And being able to send that kind of energy out is so amplified. It's so loud to them. We're saying a lot, even when we're not saying a lot. And as a psychic medium, my job is only to be the bridge between them and you. I know that you're not there to experience that together as you would be. It's hard. I would never take away the reality of someone's physical absence. You know, death is a loss. We miss people's voice. We miss their body, their laugh, their ability to be able to pick up the phone and ring them or sit next to them. Nothing about mediumship removes that. But I've had enough people in spirit acknowledge those events that have happened after they died. And physical absence, it just doesn't necessarily mean complete absence. I know they didn't physically experience perhaps the wedding in the way that they would have done, but I I believe they visit. I believe that they're aware of it. I believe that, and I've had that proof that they've seen their daughter in the dress. They got to see their son, you know, hold his firstborn. They've told me, they've expressed it. It's meant a lot. For me, I've I've always found that so comforting. And a lot of the people that I read for have too. Now I'm gonna take this conversation in a completely different direction for a minute. Because reincarnation makes this whole thing even weirder. So here's the question. Since consciousness can perceive things after death, especially in the things that I've seen and the proof that I've had for me, then what about consciousness perceiving things before birth? There are some fascinating reported reincarnation cases involving young children who appear to remember things before their current lives. And I'm not actually talking about their past lives. I'm talking about the in-between bit. There are accounts where children talk about seeing their parents before they were born, some saying that they've chosen them, or I was watching you walk, you know, along a riverbank when I chose you as my parent. Some describe, you know, watching their family or observing them. Even some child, I remember a case that I read where he said he was looking down at them from above. Some, you know, even talking about things that happened before they came along. I don't know what possible interpretations of those stories we could have. Who knows? You would have to get into the nitty-gritty of each case, but I've heard this a lot. And obviously, this is not scientific evidence of anything in particular, but I find it interesting that there are so many cases where this has been reported by kids, you know, children who have not had the input of, you know, society and our belief system about reincarnation into their little brains. And I find it interesting that there can be that transition period where we are watching or consciously deciding, or I don't know, getting ready to join our family before they're our family because we've chosen them or we're aligned with them and have things to learn with them. I mean, what exactly is consciousness capable of when it isn't operating through a physical body? Maybe seeing doesn't require eyes and hearing doesn't require the ears. Maybe awareness isn't limited in the way that we assume it is. And this connects with something I already believe through mediumship. Because my experiences have taught me that I don't think consciousness begins and ends neatly with our physical body. What exactly happens before we're born, dunno. What exactly happens after we die, I don't know that either. Not exactly. But I've seen enough through mediumship to believe there's more going on than we're currently experiencing here. And I think that's awesome. But let me be clear, because this is another misconception that I would like to kind of clear up. Because I believe that our loved ones can see things doesn't mean that they suddenly know everything. And I do believe that they also have warned us of things forthcoming, you know, things that haven't happened yet. I don't believe that they necessarily have all of the information either. I don't believe that the future is predetermined in exactly that kind of fashion. I think that we can be on a collision course for some change and they can see that coming. I believe that perhaps there is some awareness and enlightenment that they have that we don't because they're no longer limited to their physical body, because they're an energetic source. But I also witness readings where your Uncle Dave is still your Uncle Dave. He's still got the same sense of humor. He's still got that energy about him. He's still got some things going on there that not necessarily has changed a lot. And I recognize that our souls evolve and that we embody the way that we embody in our physical life and that we carry that on for a certain amount of time. And my belief is that we reincarnate. But do we get all the answers in between? No. Do I think Uncle Dave could probably help you out a little bit? Yeah, I do. I think Uncle Dave might have a couple of things to say that might be useful for you. But I love in mediumship that people still feel like themselves, that humor comes through and their personality, the relationship with the person that I'm reading for. Sometimes their stubbornness, okay, and their opinions affair. Um, and sometimes I am left just sitting there thinking, yeah, I can see exactly what you were like. I have said in a lot of my readings, I really like your aunt. Or your mom is, she's a beautiful person. What a great, what a great lady. Or I would really get along with your granddad. We would have absolutely a giggle together. I've said that, you know, I've felt people. But when I say that our loved ones can be aware of us, I'm not suddenly saying they've suddenly got unlimited access to every thought you've ever had or every conversation you've ever had and every single thing that you've ever done. No, it's not really like that. But, you know, they're not all powerful and all-knowing. But you know what? They got a couple of new tricks up their sleeves, sure. So what if you never got to say goodbye? I didn't want to miss this little section out of this episode because since we're here on the subject, you know, a lot of people carry this weight that they didn't get there in time, or that the passing of their loved one was just sudden. Or they weren't on great terms. Maybe they weren't speaking, or they didn't realize how bad things were. They thought they'd have another conversation or another visit, another chance. And then suddenly there just wasn't one. I sadly get to hear a lot of I should have told them, or I wish I'd sat, or they didn't know. And based on everything that I have experienced through mediumship, I'm gonna say something to you. Say it now. You have not missed your chance. Tell them. You can sit in your kitchen or your car, you can go to the gravesite, you can look at the photograph, you can write it down a letter. Think it. You don't need me or any other medium. You don't need to know whether they're standing beside you at that exact second, just say it. I believe there's a very good chance they're gonna hear you. So after all of that, can they see us? My answer is yes. I believe they can. And I believe they can hear us. And that they know about stuff since they've died. They know about the things that have happened in our lives since they've gone. I've got enough evidence to readings that I can say absolutely. And they talk about visiting us all the time. So I know they do. But I feel like they do it in a way that they come and go. You know, sometimes they stay closer than other times. I guess it depends on what we need, it depends on what they need. I believe they're drawn to particular moments when we kind of emotionally call to them, or when they just know they're supposed to be there. And I think they just check in from time to time. And when we draw them closer through thought, emotion, memory, and talking to them, they love that. They love keeping their relationship with you alive, and they're drawn to that too. But they've also got a sense of personal space and respect. So don't worry. Nobody's interested in your showers. You know, death changes our relationship with someone. It does. It changes how we communicate, how we experience their presence, but it doesn't end the connection. So keep it going. You know, keep them alive in your thoughts and your heart. We don't need to know exactly how any of it works. I'm not even sure we're supposed to know. You know, some mystery is allowed here. But I've been given enough glimpses through the people I've communicated with to believe that love, connection, and awareness, it doesn't disappear when the body does. And that has got to be one of the most fascinating and comforting things that this work has ever taught me. Now, if you want to have some conversations with me a little further here, then please join me on psychicwisperspodcast.com. If you would love to sit down with me and talk about your loved one, you can do that on psychic whispers.com. Come and sit and have a session with me. I'd love to hear. Now, until next time, trust your path, honor your truth, and always keep listening.